Following Spurs (Football) & Your Mental Health

[srups34]

I have to say that Spurs have played a major part in my well being over the years. When results go against us it certainly does change my mood, I need a cooling off period before I can take it on the chin and move on. As I got older and wiser lol I started to adjust my life from being a moody bastard after losing a game to just switching off completely and not letting it annoy me as before. Not worth the stress when you see the state the Club are in now. Still like to get over to games 3 to 4 times a season but there are more important things in life than Football. In saying that I have supported the Club over 40 years and would still love them to win a major trophy sooner rather than later. COYS

 

[nferno]

Ex knows

 

[spursfan77]

I think we just have to laugh at them now.

I went past anger ages ago and now gone past the recent months' apathy and now I just cant be bothered to do anything else but laugh at them.

(I completely ignored the game yesterday as I knew we'd get dicked. It was a great thing to do and I'll probably continue with that and list the rest of my tickets this season)

 

[Gassin's finest]

Honestly don't do it to yourselves lads. Just check out for 6 months. Kane is leaving, Poch is going to Chelsea, we're going to end up with Nigel Adkins in charge. Go spend time outdoors instead.

 

[spurs mental]

Stopped watching when we went behind v Bournemouth last week.

Didn't watch yesterday. Will continue to disconnect from the club for the rest of the season. Might watch highlights but Spurs won't be effecting me for the remainder of the season. The weather is getting better, the evenings are getting longer and my kids aren't going to want to spend time with me forever.

 

[yido_number1]

Prior to Newcastle the games were ruining my weekends. I watched the Newcastle game from 2-0 onwards and actually laughed my way through it. Since then I'm just laughing at everything the club is doing.

I think the weight of expectation is lifted and every step we get worse is more of a reason for a strong reaction from Levy.

It's definitely shining a light on the issues at the club.

 

[ginola99]

I had a nervous breakdown aged 26 and have felt social anxiety and anxiety in ways that most cannot comprehend. I was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism (HFA) aged 31, I waited 2 years for my assessment, and asked the assessor where I was on the Spectrum - they responded 'you need to go back to your GP'. It has been an uphill battle ever since then trying to find help as I've battled depression and anxiety, bouts of getting stuck in my head and struggling day to day. In fact, I went back to the GP last year aged 33 to try see where I was on the spectrum. It went like this

GP: you have HFA and there's no need for further assessment. All it is, so to speak, is you can't go through the herd.

Me: but you can't ignore the herd, that makes things worse.

GP: Yes very true but you have to find a way of going round the herd instead.

I was prescribed anti-depressants and other stuff. I picked up the prescription but never took one as it just didn't feel right taking something that would've made me numb for months during which I was gonna get married to my best friend and soul mate. A couple months later I returned the prescription. Whilst this may have been a bad move I don't regret it, also became a Dad in recently, the best moment I have ever known in my life. I love our son so much, he along with my wife and step daughter are everything to me.

I am proud of my Autism but the anxiety and depression along with getting stuck in my head and lack of filter whilst talking that comes with it is too much. The ordinary social situations and trying to hold down a job is utterly soul destroying. I feel on the edge of another nervous break down all the time. I also feel I may have ADHD but cannot self diagnose and getting an appointment with the GP again to try set up an assessment has been a struggle this past week (was in No. 14 in the queue whilst on the phone to them after requesting an appointment last week via their website).

I had another near melt down today as I got hardly any work done with my parents round earlier. After they left I still couldn't get stuff down (it's a mix of life in the way yes but predominantly my poor concentration levels). I walked out the door with our dog 'needing a walk' saying 'I most probably don't need a job anyway'. I went on the walk because I needed to blow some steam yes but mainly felt like I was about to erupt infront of my beautiful wife, amazing step daughter and 3 month old son. My wife is worried again and I want to roll under a rock feeling ashamed of these moments. Whilst these moments are few and far between they feel fairly more regular and unfair on everyone I love.

After I came back I saw the reports of us not getting rejected by Nagelsmann for the managers job and just ignored it and came here.

Please do the same it isn't worth it. I love Spurs but they are nothing in comparison to my family. Reading such negativity and seeing poor performances on the pitch while not turning the TV off makes things worse.

We all have our hopes and dreams for this team but letting the clubs unsuccessful moments ruin your day shouldn't be part of it. If you're having a bad day stuff like these news stories will just add to it.

Just stay in the present and enjoy the time you spend with the ones you love.

Gavin

 

[fishhhandaricecake]

I had a nervous breakdown aged 26 and have felt social anxiety and anxiety in ways that most cannot comprehend. I was diagnosed with High Functioning Autism (HFA) aged 31, I waited 2 years for my assessment, and asked the assessor where I was on the Spectrum - they responded 'you need to go back to your GP'. It has been an uphill battle ever since then trying to find help as I've battled depression and anxiety, bouts of getting stuck in my head and struggling day to day. In fact, I went back to the GP last year aged 33 to try see where I was on the spectrum. It went like this

GP: you have HFA and there's no need for further assessment. All it is, so to speak, is you can't go through the herd.

Me: but you can't ignore the herd, that makes things worse.

GP: Yes very true but you have to find a way of going round the herd instead.

I was prescribed anti-depressants and other stuff. I picked up the prescription but never took one as it just didn't feel right taking something that would've made me numb for months during which I was gonna get married to my best friend and soul mate. A couple months later I returned the prescription. Whilst this may have been a bad move I don't regret it, also became a Dad in recently, the best moment I have ever known in my life. I love our son so much, he along with my wife and step daughter are everything to me.

I am proud of my Autism but the anxiety and depression along with getting stuck in my head and lack of filter whilst talking that comes with it is too much. The ordinary social situations and trying to hold down a job is utterly soul destroying. I feel on the edge of another nervous break down all the time. I also feel I may have ADHD but cannot self diagnose and getting an appointment with the GP again to try set up an assessment has been a struggle this past week (was in No. 14 in the queue whilst on the phone to them after requesting an appointment last week via their website).

I had another near melt down today as I got hardly any work done with my parents round earlier. After they left I still couldn't get stuff down (it's a mix of life in the way yes but predominantly my poor concentration levels). I walked out the door with our dog 'needing a walk' saying 'I most probably don't need a job anyway'. I went on the walk because I needed to blow some steam yes but mainly felt like I was about to erupt infront of my beautiful wife, amazing step daughter and 3 month old son. My wife is worried again and I want to roll under a rock feeling ashamed of these moments. Whilst these moments are few and far between they feel fairly more regular and unfair on everyone I love.

After I came back I saw the reports of us not getting rejected by Nagelsmann for the managers job and just ignored it and came here.

Please do the same it isn't worth it. I love Spurs but they are nothing in comparison to my family. Reading such negativity and seeing poor performances on the pitch while not turning the TV off makes things worse.

We all have our hopes and dreams for this team but letting the clubs unsuccessful moments ruin your day shouldn't be part of it. If you're having a bad day stuff like these news stories will just add to it.

Just stay in the present and enjoy the time you spend with the ones you love.

Gavin

Lovely post mate and all the best to you.

Small Q… do you do much intense exercise. I know that sounds simple but I know a few people with Autism and ADHD and severe anxiety and they’ve found by doing some intense exercise daily it really helps to settle their mind and calm it down along with a zero / very low sugar and no processed food diet, no alcohol or other drugs and 8hrs of sleep and some fresh air in nature at weekends even just for a few minutes.

Id urge anyone with any mental health concerns to try those changes first and resist and refuse to take any anti-depressants etc, that only masks things.