Supporting Spurs

[vicbob]

I honestly recommend apathy.
5 years ago I would have got up early to get the train to London, had a few beers, something to eat and then go to the game. I would have spent a small fortune, but supporting spurs was a main part of my life, it meant so much.

Today, I only remembered 5 minutes ago that we were actually playing, logged on to see the score, and not a flicker of emotion passed through me.
I don’t care anymore, the feeling around the club and the bastard that runs it, have taken away from me something that I have done for 35 years and turned it into something that means nothing.

For the first few years I was angry with Levy, hoping things would change enough for me to get sucked back in, but now I honestly think I’m too far gone, which is a shame as I would love to take my 8 year old sometime, but just can’t be bothered.

in a way I think I’m better off (certainly financially) and I have my weekends back. I still class myself as a spurs supporter, but I’m not sure if I actually am anymore.

the only thing in my life that’s still spurs, is this place, but I spend more time in the other forums than spurs chat anymore.

 

[Yid121]

It costs so much for what? I'll carry on watching on TV but I won't be going to games unless I can't avoid it

I also miss the old ground if I'm honest. That south stand lower tier had such a better atmosphere than the whole of our new south stand despite being a quarter of the size.

 

[13VanDerBale13]

 

[riggi]

All quite exciting really.

 

[Spurvert]

I used to be spurs centric - watched every game I could, followed every news article, properly immersed.

It’s slowly changed over the last few years. I can’t really say when it happened, but I Lost my love for it. Perhaps other life factors compounding my emotional detachment but I do think you can fall out of love supporting the club you adored as a kid.

I still have some interest and I don’t follow another team, but I just seem to laugh when we lose and then move on. There’s just too much else in life to enjoy, and life is short and precise, to have your feelings held to ransom by Spurs. I have a little boy now and his grandad is a Brighton fan - I don’t know if I want to put him through the misery and haven’t really resisted his grandad bending his ear to support Brighton. Can’t believe it really as 5 or so years back I’d have banned him from the house for swaying his allegiance!

My Dad, and younger brothers, are all Man United fans. My Dad let me choose who to support and I chose Spurs. He didn’t let my brothers choose and I grew up watching them win everything and Spurs win a couple of league cups (was four in 91 so too young to remember)

My brothers being United and me being Spurs has had very little impact on our relationship with our Dad. If anything, ours is better as all they seem to do is argue about United

 

[sundanceyid10]

I know this may seem kneejerk to some and ridiculous to others but I guess the situation with how I feel about supporting Spurs is compounded by other things in my life. I've supported Spurs for 35 years and I go to games every year when I can get tickets. I take my kids and they love going to the stadium and singing all the songs and essentially having free license to shout as much as they want.

But supporting Spurs isn't a walk in the park as you all know and I'm finding I don't really enjoy watching us. I don't find it entertaining. On the contrary I find it stressful and anxiety inducing and when we win I'm in a good mood and when we lose it affects me more than I'd like it to. I listen to the podcasts in the hope of hearing some optimism about our future, I read the transfer rumours in the hope of having some exciting news about a new player that can help our cause. But it all seems more and more toxic, divisive and pessimistic. The last few months of the season have not been fun and I feel every match is another moment when I'm going to be let down. I don't blame the players or Ange, I'm very much Ange In because I believe in what he's trying to achieve.

But I've stepped over to the dark side and accept that this is all on Levy. We will likely sack Ange, even though I would want him to have a proper opportunity to bring success and we'll move onto the next manager without properly supporting him with the players necessary to do the job and in 18 months he'll be sacked too. I think after 35 years of supporting the club and going to games I will decide to just stop.

I just feel like I'd prefer not to support any club if it's going to make me feel this way. Is it possible to stop supporting Spurs?

Sorry for the long post but I don't have many other outlets aside from here

I feel your pain and it’s not been fun for a while. I completely agree with you that the blame is at Levy’s door.

But I was just making a coffee and thinking about Spurs and no matter how dark the times it’s still my club, it will always be my club. It’s my dad’s club and he is 80 now. It’s ok to feel down about football at times.

One thing I want to say is this forum and its community is amazing, you are among friends. Spurs haven’t won much in forever but we are all still here, sharing humour and fun even though it’s not great. There’s something special about Spurs fans

Maybe Moore and Grey and the younger players pick up the torch for the next generation, that’s my hope.

PS if that happens Levy will sell them

 

[stevespurs]

In sickness and in health, for richer or poorer….

So what if we are shit at the moment. I vividly remember excruciatingly watching Leicesters results that year, and nervously watching us the day after. It was awful watching Poch’s good team for a whole 18 months. Watching bloody Conte’s painful Spurs team. Seeing our goal machine Harry leave. FFS we’ve all been here before, even when we were “top 5”.

I watched The Blitz movie last night, jeez we’ve gotten a bit precious since our grand-parents/parents haven’t we.

I know we are in a perilous position, and we might seem to have some flaky little feckers who don’t appear to be up for the fight, on the pitch and in the stands. But let’s stick together, and show some fighting spirit.

I watch all our youngsters coming through, showing the right kind of effort and passion, let’s support Them.. Poor old misery bloody Ange, just think what’s he’s going through, poor bugger. We want to lash out at Levy, but really? With the amount we’ve spent over this last few seasons? It’s just football, with ebbs and flows, one moment your getting knocked out, next moment you grab a winner.

 

[KingsDodgyKnee]

I honestly recommend apathy.
5 years ago I would have got up early to get the train to London, had a few beers, something to eat and then go to the game. I would have spent a small fortune, but supporting spurs was a main part of my life, it meant so much.

Today, I only remembered 5 minutes ago that we were actually playing, logged on to see the score, and not a flicker of emotion passed through me.
I don’t care anymore, the feeling around the club and the bastard that runs it, have taken away from me something that I have done for 35 years and turned it into something that means nothing.

For the first few years I was angry with Levy, hoping things would change enough for me to get sucked back in, but now I honestly think I’m too far gone, which is a shame as I would love to take my 8 year old sometime, but just can’t be bothered.

in a way I think I’m better off (certainly financially) and I have my weekends back. I still class myself as a spurs supporter, but I’m not sure if I actually am anymore.

the only thing in my life that’s still spurs, is this place, but I spend more time in the other forums than spurs chat anymore.

This is pretty much my take on it - apathy. I don't really care about bad results any more, but still enjoy discussing the match and where things might go. I don't bother watching games really - my wife calls me a terrible fan because I'll watch every match possible but not Spurs!

It comes from my Derby supporting dad I think. We now have a shared apathy towards our respective teams, but still enjoy watching and discussing games. Went to our first football match together for about 25 years on Saturday - Cardiff vs. Derby - and took my 2.5 year old lad (first time my dad's been with '3 generations'). He was laughing at how poor Derby were but he enjoyed seeing my lads love of the game grow. And that's where I find myself - loving the game but not being at all arsed about my own team that I've supported for 32 years.

That's life I suppose.

 

[cliff jones]

Very sad to see many of you having already made peace with your separation from the Club.

Try as I might, I just can't. I felt physically sick as the Tamworth game went on, and during the second half yesterday. Slept really badly last night.

I'll never complain about being 8th again. But I can't stand this relegation quicksand we have been plunged into.

All the opportunities missed, obstacles placed in the way of our Club by our last two owners for the best part of 30 years- none of it matches up to the complete farce unfolding before our eyes right now.

I just feel completely gutted

 

[Dr Know]

I've never seen a more divided fanbase in my years of supporting Spurs. My best days as a supporter was when Poch was here. He actually had the club, players, fans and even our opponent fans unified. I remember talking to fans from other clubs that were envious of how together our players were and how they fought for each other. Even the season where we did not bring in any players, Poch worked with what he had and we were still together as fans and as a club. Levy is a master at business and he's taken us to great levels in terms of getting the money in. Football wise, he should not even attend games IMO. It would be best if he sat at home and watched it on his 700 inch TV.
I would take Poch back in a heartbeat as I feel we need someone to get the fanbase back to fully supporting the team which in turn would bread more confidence in the team and the results would follow. I truly believe that Poch would have handled this really bad period of injuries better than Ange. (I'm actually still on the fence about Ange but that's more to do with who we can bring in rather than losing him.)
Re: Poch - There's a few on here that's said "He's dead to me since he went to the Chavs" He was fired, he did not resign to leave for the chavs. What was the man supposed to do? Not work? Maureen once said he would never manage Spurs.............the rest is history

 

[E17yid]

None of us are interested in getting clean thanks. We’re not fair weather fans you know. We’re full blown addicts. I’m still buzzing for next week. COYS.

 

[stormfly]

I play rugby on Saturdays and it’s amazing when Spurs are playing at the same time. I completely forget we are playing then remember after a couple of beers and check the result.

If we win I then watch the highlights and read all about it. If we lose I just forget it ever happened unfortunately with us being in the Europa we play on Sundays and have nothing better to do than to watch the pain

 

[mabolsa_ritchey]

Agreed.

Compartmentalisation is the aim.

Sadly, though, too often the reality is more like this...


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Only just seen this, but I’ve been laughing at this for the last hour. It’s so true!

 

[buttons]

I know this may seem kneejerk to some and ridiculous to others but I guess the situation with how I feel about supporting Spurs is compounded by other things in my life. I've supported Spurs for 35 years and I go to games every year when I can get tickets. I take my kids and they love going to the stadium and singing all the songs and essentially having free license to shout as much as they want.

But supporting Spurs isn't a walk in the park as you all know and I'm finding I don't really enjoy watching us. I don't find it entertaining. On the contrary I find it stressful and anxiety inducing and when we win I'm in a good mood and when we lose it affects me more than I'd like it to. I listen to the podcasts in the hope of hearing some optimism about our future, I read the transfer rumours in the hope of having some exciting news about a new player that can help our cause. But it all seems more and more toxic, divisive and pessimistic. The last few months of the season have not been fun and I feel every match is another moment when I'm going to be let down. I don't blame the players or Ange, I'm very much Ange In because I believe in what he's trying to achieve.

But I've stepped over to the dark side and accept that this is all on Levy. We will likely sack Ange, even though I would want him to have a proper opportunity to bring success and we'll move onto the next manager without properly supporting him with the players necessary to do the job and in 18 months he'll be sacked too. I think after 35 years of supporting the club and going to games I will decide to just stop.

I just feel like I'd prefer not to support any club if it's going to make me feel this way. Is it possible to stop supporting Spurs?

Sorry for the long post but I don't have many other outlets aside from here

Bit late to the OP but I deleted Twitter after the Liverpool 3-6 game and have to say whilst defeats still hurt, not finding myself down a black hole of toxicity on twitter has helped me not feel so miserable after games. Honestly, it’s vile on there and not being on there has helped no end.

 

[mabolsa_ritchey]

Also for what it’s worth, I’d never be able to stop supporting this bloody club. It’s an obsession. I can’t even hide the fact that I support this team either as most of my casual wear is Spurs branded in some way because my family take the easy option for Christmas/birthday presents and go straight to the online store.
I’m a 40 year old man currently sat in a full on Spurs tracksuit the Mrs got me for Christmas, moaning about said club on the internet

 

[scat1620]

None of us are interested in getting clean thanks. We’re not fair weather fans you know. We’re full blown addicts. I’m still buzzing for next week. COYS.

 

[CanadaSpurs]

Bit late to the OP but I deleted Twitter after the Liverpool 3-6 game and have to say whilst defeats still hurt, not finding myself down a black hole of toxicity on twitter has helped me not feel so miserable after games. Honestly, it’s vile on there and not being on there has helped no end.

I strongly urge deleting all socials if you can get away with it. It’s fantastic. Another new thing I’ve started is my phone goes into a drawer as soon as I’m home and I just try to focus on time with my son before bed rather than keeping on top of whatever piddly nothings I might look at instead. It’s done wonders.

 

[buttons]

I strongly urge deleting all socials if you can get away with it. It’s fantastic. Another new thing I’ve started is my phone goes into a drawer as soon as I’m home and I just try to focus on time with my son before bed rather than keeping on top of whatever piddly nothings I might look at instead. It’s done wonders.

100 percent. I do the same, as of very recently, put the phone in the kitchen and be present.

 

[mabolsa_ritchey]

I strongly urge deleting all socials if you can get away with it. It’s fantastic. Another new thing I’ve started is my phone goes into a drawer as soon as I’m home and I just try to focus on time with my son before bed rather than keeping on top of whatever piddly nothings I might look at instead. It’s done wonders.

I love that. I want to delete the accounts, but it’s my getaway for when the Mrs has some crap on TV that I’m not interested in. But I have muted most Spurs accounts on there for my mental health. It’s an absolute cesspit. At least this site is more balanced in the views expressed.

 

[Dannyspur]

For me it’s usually 12 hours commitment to watch a match. It’s a 250 mile round trip taking in the m3 and a big chunk of the M25 followed by overground train from Enfield. On Sunday, I left home at 8:45 am and got back at around 9pm. Driving in shitty weather. The effort it takes is knackering - I will continue making that effort as long as I can. For the first time in many years though, I am wondering if at 68 years old, it is worth it. It’s not just the financial aspect of attending, but more about watching some of these pampered prima Donnas jogging around as if it is a training exercise, putting in less effort on the pitch than I have done getting to the game.
I will be there again on Thursday night cheering on the team, ever hopeful that we will get a result! Some may say that I’m a committed supporter, others will just think I should be committed!