Emotional investment

Shadydan

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Takes me 10 mins to get over a result these days, took me a couple of hours to get over the CL final.

Fact is I have other things going on in my life that will affect my mood more and is seen as a priority, I can support the team without letting them take over my life.
 

Bobbins

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Haven't cared much for a while now. I got caught up in it all a couple of years ago in the Leicester title season - I stupidly let myself believe and care again like I had done years ago.

Then we lost to West Ham and my brain and I came to an agreement - never again. We'd never let ourselves get duped into believing we could win something, and we'd never let results ruin any other part of my life.

I got my wife into supporting Spurs and I think she's more bothered by bad results these days. She gets devastated while I shrug it off with a "meh".

My kids will support Spurs (on pain of death) but I'll make sure to teach them that it's not actually that important and to stay away from the modern social media side of football...
 

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Honestly, I am barely giving much of a toss at the moment. I look at the results, laugh and move on.
I have tickets for Sheff Utd, but apart from catching up with mates, I'm not exactly counting the days.
Worst thing was receiving my little boys 3rd Birthday card from the club on Saturday, he was delighted to receive a card from Harry Kane (he adores him), I was thinking, what the fuck have I done to the poor bastard. I was really hoping he was going to grow up in a golden era for Spurs and proudly tell his mates of his love for the club, now it looks like he may have to put up with the same shit I did when growing up :)
 

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Honestly, I am barely giving much of a toss at the moment. I look at the results, laugh and move on.
I have tickets for Sheff Utd, but apart from catching up with mates, I'm not exactly counting the days.
Worst thing was receiving my little boys 3rd Birthday card from the club on Saturday, he was delighted to receive a card from Harry Kane (he adores him), I was thinking, what the fuck have I done to the poor bastard. I was really hoping he was going to grow up in a golden era for Spurs and proudly tell his mates of his love for the club, now it looks like he may have to put up with the same shit I did when growing up :)
Just me that'll resent my kid if they don't have to suffer like I did then?:cautious:
 

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The wife asked my daughter who her favourite player was the other day, expecting the rather obvious answer of ‘Harry Kane’. Instead it was ‘Rianna Dean’. Based on the last few months I think she’s wiser than I am already.
 

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Of course it's a small sample size, but this thread alone would already be a worry for Levy. The worst thing that could happen for him would be fan apathy.

The lack of fans caring, combined with the increasing availability of football in various forms and the increasing ticket prices will slowly piss all over any ideas he has of making the stadium a place that 60k+ will flock to and spend a fortune each week.

Because I fully expect to get pumped on Sunday I might even just block it all out until 7 and just get the surprise of the result once it's all done. Who am I kidding? I'll be watching it with my hands over my eyes as usual.
 

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I've definitely thought this lately.

After the defeat to Burnley last season I was devastated for days, could argue I've still not fully got over the CL final. Like you say we have no control over it really and why should I let it affect my entire week?

I made the decision to not take our results to heart so much this season (bloody good job too!) and I feel a lot better.

I genuinely believe supporting Spurs is the unhealthiest of any team in the EPL. Some teams you know you're shit and can enjoy getting a few wins, some teams win trophies regularly, but having a team that's always on the cusp of winning but never actually doing it is the worst.
 
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the thing I've realised in recent years is that i preferred it when no-one took us seriously. Now thats changed, every man and his dog has a view and I'm usually too polite to tell them where to put their opinion especially when they're not emotionally invested and I am. Oh, and i share a house with 3 Gooners so you can only imagine what I'm greeted with when we come up short!
 

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Chelsea beating Bayern was the night my love of football started to fade, and it never really recovered.
 

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I get really pissed off if we lost don't watch motd have the bang hump for a while - like gambling if it don't hurt then your not doing it right
 

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I care about Spurs and more than seeing us lose, I despise how shit we've been for months. At times like the players don't care. And that frustrates me.

But then things will happen along the way in life, whether it be work related, family etc, that makes you realise multi millionaire footballers who don't support Spurs but play for them and playing shit, really doesn't matter.

The fans who go to all of our games home and away deserve so much. They live and breathe it. Problem is not many footballers understand or really care about both the financial and emotional investment those fans make in my opinion.
 

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I actually had trouble sleeping on Saturday night, longing for the old Lane and simpler times.

Now its all NFL, distracted owners and marketing. Bring me back the old shelf, pukka pies and that funny smell you got in the stairwells.

There used to be a football club over there, as a great man once said.
You should hang out at the new porta-urinals on the High Road.

I mean, only if that's your thing. :cautious:
 

Coyboy

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Takes me 10 mins to get over a result these days, took me a couple of hours to get over the CL final.

Fact is I have other things going on in my life that will affect my mood more and is seen as a priority, I can support the team without letting them take over my life.
That's where I am at really. Though for the final, it took me a drunken walk around Madrid city centre and an argument with a hotel manager in Getafe to wake up the next morning to think "fuck it might as well enjoy a weekend in Spain".
 

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I am somewhere in between I think. I definitely don't let a bad result get to me anymore, but a good result gets me buzzing like crazy, Man City Away in the CL, Ajax too, could barely sleep after those games.

I just feel I am more pragmatic about things nowadays and I definitely don't get wound up by other fans anymore. Spurs fans however :cautious:
 

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The interesting thing is that when you stop giving so much time and effort and emotion to it all, you quickly realise two things:

1) No-one else gives a fuck. You could come into the office in a stinking mood on a Monday after losing on the weekend but no-one else could care less. And why would they? It's absolutely trivial.

2) The media and also social media is utterly geared up to create drama and obsession - football writers, pundits, commentators and players write and talk about this stuff like it really matters. And of course it absolutely doesn't. But the language they use, the importance placed on football related media, and the absolute hysterics people get themselves into on social media, can easily create the false impression that any of this actually matters at all.

It's only once you've stepped back from all this and looked at it objectively that you realise how mental it is that so many people make so much fuss over a sport. Not just a sport - but a sport which is repeated on an effectively infinite basis forevermore, meaning every year it's the same regurgitation of artificially created dramas and this really does matter this time honest media reporting.
 

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The interesting thing is that when you stop giving so much time and effort and emotion to it all, you quickly realise two things:

1) No-one else gives a fuck. You could come into the office in a stinking mood on a Monday after losing on the weekend but no-one else could care less. And why would they? It's absolutely trivial.

2) The media and also social media is utterly geared up to create drama and obsession - football writers, pundits, commentators and players write and talk about this stuff like it really matters. And of course it absolutely doesn't. But the language they use, the importance placed on football related media, and the absolute hysterics people get themselves into on social media, can easily create the false impression that any of this actually matters at all.

It's only once you've stepped back from all this and looked at it objectively that you realise how mental it is that so many people make so much fuss over a sport. Not just a sport - but a sport which is repeated on an effectively infinite basis forevermore, meaning every year it's the same regurgitation of artificially created dramas and this really does matter this time honest media reporting.
What a great post
 

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Chelsea beating Bayern was the night my love of football started to fade, and it never really recovered.
I think you are on to something there. Before that point I was very emotionally invested in our games. I remember being so distraught when we lost to Man City in Jan 2012. It came a point in my life when I was struggling (my daughter was 1 and difficult, we were living with my parents which was hell and my contract at work was about to end with no new job in sight) so I invested everything in Spurs.

It was one of those games where I was angry whole game and really riding the emotional rollercoaster. When King brought down Balotelli I didn't even wait for the whistle I just stormed out and sat by myself for 30 mins or so. Once the dust had settled this was a bit of an eye opener that I shouldn't really let it get to me like this. By the time the CL final came round I was already detaching myself but this felt like the nail in that coffin. Seeing us get something taken away due to a result in a tournament we weren't even involved in seemed so unfair.

Since then I have been pretty good at separating football results from life until last year. The CL matches against City and Ajax saw me relapse pretty badly and I was heavily invested in the final like most!

Since then I have again tried to detach and although I'm frustrated with this season it hasn't hit me anywhere near as hard as it previously would have done. Let's see how long that lasts!!

I think it's funny how much of an impact football has on your life. I'm the sort of bloke that never shows emotion but I have cried twice in recent times because of football. Once when England beat Colombia on penalties and when Moura scored the 3rd against Ajax. I think it shows the inherent emotional trauma that football fans carry with them just waiting for a trigger!
 
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