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handsomecake

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May 19, 2008
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Hello Spurs fans.

Probably the wrong place for this thread but I hope you will indulge me for a moment. Ive done my fair share of trolling and acting the maggot on here and on the old COYS forum over the years but i need a minute of your time.

As a child I supported Aston Villa for about two years until I was about 7 years old and then my uncle introduced (forced me to follow) the mighty Spurs.

We were very close in age ( only 5/6 years apart ) so I did what ever he told me and I was forever more a spurs fan.

After a family disagreement we fell out and hadn't spoken since around 2012 . We never got to speak about Bale, Poch, Modric , Kanes rise from the ranks or the champions league run. The night of Amsterdam I knew he'd be watching and i'm sure he had a wry smile on his face thinking of my reaction to mouras third goal as I did about his.

I awoke to the news this morning that he took his own life yesterday aged 40 leaving behind a girlfriend and daughter . He lost his own father (my grandfather) only 8 weeks ago (a funeral I didn't attend due to the aformentioned family disagreement) .I don't know what he was going through recently or what lead him to that decision.

He was a Tottenham fan through and through and his favourite player was Teddy Sheringham growing up.

His name was Andrew and he was a yiddo
 

-Afri-Coy-

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Jun 26, 2012
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So so Sorry for your loss, I can only imagine what you're going through during this difficult time.

You'll find we can be very helpful people during hard times and I have had some of the best advice come from members on this forum. You can always make a thread under the general chat and we will all help you wherever we can.
 

wrd

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Aug 22, 2014
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Sorry to hear that mate, suicide is a devastating thing that leaves families reeling and I know it's hard not to wonder what you all could have done to prevent it or thoughts of that nature but we all have our demons and we are all good at hiding them one way or another and I'd implore you and your family to not go down that negative line of thinking and get some help to deal with this horrible loss and not carry the burden of undeserved guilt. I hope the best for you and your family trying to deal with this.
 

Thewobbler

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Oct 29, 2016
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Sorry to hear that. Its sad that the disagreement went on for so long and couldnt be fixed before he took his life.
 

Jamturk

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Aug 13, 2008
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Sorry to hear about that.

Maybe we can use this thread to prompt us to reach out to anybody we may know who we've lost touch with along the way.
 

marion52

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Dec 10, 2006
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That’s is very distressing for you, so sorry.
My brother does not talk to me but every so often I try to heal the rift, I rang him at the start of lockdown to check on him and his family. He spoke to me but it was difficult as he was not very responsive but I know I tried and wii not give up.
 

longtimespur

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Sep 10, 2014
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Not much else I can add to what's been said apart from saying my daughter's husband(early 30's) lost his brother in January. Committed suicide in his parents house and I know how he and his family felt.
So really all I can say is understand what you're going through and that things do heal slowly. All the best to you and yours.
 

McFlash

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Oct 19, 2005
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Really sorry to hear that mate and I wish you and your family all the best at this incredibly hard time.
Suicide's a fucker and even worse when there are unresolved issues.
'Chat' can be a great place on here for support on all sorts of issues. Sometimes it's just good to vent to people you don't really know.
X
 

fishhhandaricecake

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Nov 15, 2018
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Very sorry to hear this horrible news, we are all here for you. I’d urge anyone going through anything like this to use a service such as BetterHelp to speak to an online counsellor to get additional support from a certified expert. No shame in it, easy and quick to access.

Stay positive
 

Hercules

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Jul 23, 2014
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Very sorry, sad and disturbing news. Please know we are here for you. And will receive a pm from you if you need to talk.
 

Houdini

No better cure for the blues than some good pussy.
Jul 10, 2006
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My condolences and sympathy to you and the families.
I know how devastating this can be and people tend to clam up but it's speaking about it that will help you cope far better than if you don't.


**Some Prem clubs are doing the cardboard cut out with photo for the match day but I don't think we are doing them.
 
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